I Miss My Boyfriend

If you are going through the,"I miss my boyfriend stage", this is normal even if you are the one who broke up with him. Whether you were ready for the break-up or not, the feelings that you have for him are not going to go away anytime soon especially if you two were together for awhile.

When you find yourself thinking," Did I make the right decision or I want him back." Then you should ask yourself," Is it wise to call him and tell him, can we work things out"?

Thinking About The Good 'ol Days
I understand how you feel. You are not alone in feeling this way. You are probably thinking about how good he smelled, the way he laughed, how he talked, and how you enjoyed the way he fixed you dinner. Maybe you are thinking about how much you had in common such as dancing; and coincidentally this is how you spent your first date, dancing the night away.

This is how most people feel after a break-up. You are not wrong in feeling this way. It is natural for you to feel this way because you miss those positive attributes that he brought into your life.

Becoming single again after being in a long-term relationship, you will have to deal with residual feelings of admiration, love, and adoration for your ex even if the break-up was mutual or one-sided. When you find yourself thinking about him, you automatically think of how he used to be in the beginning of your relationship instead of the negative things that tore you two apart.

Keep this in mind, if he was the ONE, you two would still be together.  Was your ex the perfect guy? Well, I think not. For if he was, he would have found a way to make things work out between the two of you OR you would not have given him the heave ho.

Was It A Mistake To Break-Up?
When you have had some time and space from one another, you start thinking if your break-up was a mistake. Maybe the both of you said some things to each other that you really did not mean or you blew some situation way out of proportion. 

Or, maybe the day you broke up you were already having a bad day and you inadvertently took it out on him. And after that horrible argument the two of you had, everything just got out of hand.

After you two have spent some time apart; and you have gotten to the bottom of the reason why you broke up, this may be a good time to call him and talk. If you two still love and care about one another, talking things out and hearing what the other has to say will help you to avoid the same mistakes again if you two decide to repair your relationship.

There is one important question you must honestly ask yourself. "Are you missing your boyfriend for the right reasons"? If you are missing him because you don't want to be single or you want him back because your BFFs have boyfriends, this is the wrong reason to get back together.

Take this time apart to put your relationship under a microscope and analyze why you miss him so much. What is it you miss about him? Are you truly in love with him? Or was he just someone to be with for the time being.

Should You Call Him Up?
The proper answer to this question depends on a few criteria. If you have carefully analyzed your relationship and why you broke up, and have come to the conclusion that you two deserve another chance, you should ring him up and ask him to meet you somewhere and talk.

If you dumped him, don't wait for him to call. He is probably too gun shy to make the first move or if he broke up with you, you are going to have to call him. He may not call you for feeling stupid about breaking-up with the best girl ever. So, whether he broke up with you or you broke up with him, you may have to make the first move in getting back together.

Before you decide to call him up and ask him for a sit down, do you really miss him for him or are you just lonely?

If you want to get back with your boyfriend just to pacify your loneliness, I have to say this is not a good idea. You want him back for superficial reasons. If he still loves you and you don't love him, getting back together for the wrong reasons will inevitably bring you back to another break-up.

If he broke up with you, I doubt he would treat you any differently if he behaved badly during the relationship. Regardless of who broke up with who, the relationship will not work if the both of you aren't in love with one another.

Two people who are truly in love with one another will make their relationship work even through the tough times. If you really miss your boyfriend for all of the right reasons, you should contact him to iron things out. He may want to talk to you too but he hasn't the courage.