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8) Make A List and Check It Twice
Write down a list of reasons why your ex was wrong for you and add in his/her shortcoming as well. This is an emotional healing process. When writing this list be brutally honest and don't hold back! What this is doing is giving you a clear and accurate picture of your ex. You should look at this list to remind you of what you no longer have to deal with when you start missing him/her.
While you are making this list, write down the things your ex did good and bad and how did this make you feel. Highlight the feelings you never want to go through again. When you find yourself wanting to speak with your ex in a vulnerable lonely moment, don't reach for the phone, reach for the list.
Since you were brutally honest writing the list, the list will tell you what life with him/her was actually like and you will feel those pangs of loneliness to be with him/her dissipate. Ask yourself,"Why would you want to go through that hell again?" Remember, you deserve to be loved and treated well just like any other human being.
9) Throw Out The Trash
This breakup could be exactly what the doctor ordered. Taking out old things that you two collected is a great way to emotionally heal. You don't need things lying around the house reminding you of your ex.
Cleaning up your home or personal space is therapeutic and this will keep your mind occupied to think about more constructive things. While your cleaning your room, put up some new pictures and while on your computer, get rid of old photos. Believe it or not cleaning will help you to feel better and help to ease the pain.
10) Press The Delete Button
You will be amazed at the many things that will remind you of your ex, things like a song, a restaurant, or a certain aroma. You need to learn how to delete these painful memories once you have grieved over your breakup.
Subconsciously, there are things lying about that are memory triggers of your ex. Look for these memory triggers by going from room to room in your home and get rid of everything that reminds you of him/her that turns your stomach or breaks your heart all over again.
Don't just gloss over each room, go over it with a fine tooth comb. You do want to get over your ex, don't you? It could be a favorite mug in the kitchen cabinet that was your ex's. Or it could be an old razor that he left in the bathroom. When you see these things, you will either feel rage or heartache.
Once you clear your space of these memory triggers, you will notice a positive difference in how you feel. If he/she has given you something valuable such as a necklace or a watch, don't throw it away especially if it gives you fond memories. But put it in a drawer for now out of sight until you can look at without emotionally breaking down.
11) Focus On Other Things
There is more to life than being in a relationship. You can catch up on what has been happening with family and friends, begin reading again, or even take a class you have been putting off. Even though you are not in a relationship right now, you can still enjoy life being single. This shows you and your ex that you can enjoy life without him/her.
12) Don't Set and Watch Grass Grow
Stay active by getting out there and meet new people by joining a gym or the book of the month club. Exercising elevates your mood and refocuses your attention. Take a spinning or yoga class at the gym or just go walking with a friend or by yourself. Here are some motivation tips to get you in the mood to exercise:
Start off slow for now When you show up to the gym, start off by doing 30 minutes on a recumbent bike or while you are walking, just walk around the block once. This is not so bad is it? Once you start doing this, you will eventually want to do more.
Once you get off of the recumbent bike, you'll might want to walk for 30 minutes on the treadmill or if you decide to walk, you might decide to walk three blocks instead of one. Before you know it, exercising will become a healthy habit you will enjoy.
13) Evict Negative Emotions
Although it feels easier to do this, harboring hatred, regret, and anger against somenone is no benefit to you. Although the relationship ended on a sour note or maybe it didn't, you two had some good times together and you may have learned a thing or two from your ex.
14) Reread The List
Return to that list I told you to make in guideline #8. Review what turned you off with your ex. While you are rereading what his/her weak points were, you will eventually find your ex less and less attractive. This will help you to get over the breakup.
I am not telling you to "hate on" your ex but you really need to have it mentally sink in why this person is not a perfect match for you. For example maybe your ex was cheap and never wanted to spend any money on you.
Or, maybe he/she was an atheist and you did not share his/her beliefs. Or, your ex cheated on you multiple times. Getting over a breakup is never easy but if you take it one day at a time and put these guidelines into good use, you will be Ok.
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Monday, February 11, 2013
Getting Over A Breakup
Mulling over the reason why you broke up is one good way of healing emotionally as long as it isn't overdone. Ask yourself, what led up or caused the breakup? There is probably more than one reason why you two broke up. You should know what they are.
Sometimes relationships weren't meant to last but while you had time with each other, you enjoyed it. You two drifted apart because one or the both of your priorities shifted and what was important to you then is no longer significant now. It is better to breakup now, then to end up in a crummy 15 or 20 year marriage and go through a bitter divorce.
Knowing why you broke up is the first step in getting over a breakup. Reflecting on what went wrong in this relationship will help you not to make the same mistakes in your next relationship. For instance, if you were too jealous, or too possessive, or unfaithful, you know these behaviors can ruin a relationship.
2) Stick To You Guns
If it was you who ended the relationship, thinking about the good o'l days may cloud your judgement into thinking you've made the wrong decision. But you must not let the good times of the past allow you to forget what caused you two to breakup.
If he broke up with you, don't second-guess his decision. Deep down, you probably know it was for the best especially if he/she wasn't treating you the way you deserved to be treated.
When you start reminiscing about all the good times you had with him or her, you might start to convince yourself that he/she wasn't that bad after all and you could live with the bad aspects of the relationship.
Or you maybe thinking if my ex just knew how I felt about him/her, he/she would want to get back together. It is not wise to venture into this type of thinking. Accept your new marital status and emotionally move on.
3) Maintain Your Distance
Even if your breakup was a clean and amicable one, you can remain friends but it is wise to take some time apart right after you two end your relationship. Allow me to elaborate, when I mean no contact immediately after a breakup,
I mean don't send any e-mails, don't contact his/her family, don't hit him/her up on Facebook, do not phone him/her or text him/her, and no letters in the mail. This is not permanent of course. Do not contact him/her until you are ready to see him/her as friends only with no other motives in mind to rekindle your relationship.
If your ex wants to see you again, what would be the point in doing this if he/she or the both of you agreed that you should no longer see each other. If you see one another too soon, you might wind up getting caught up in the moment and do God knows what and making it harder on yourselves to let each other be.
I understand you will have to communicate to your ex especially if there are children involved, pets you have adopted, or moving out and getting the rest of your belongings. But these meetings should be kept to a minimum. In other words, do what you need to do and part company for now.
4) Deal With Your Pain Responsibly
If you know you are the one who messed things up in this relationship, this is Ok. Accepting responsibility for your actions is a good thing. It shows signs of maturity. However, don't beat yourself up too bad. We are all human and we make mistakes. Denial is another important emotion that you will experience but accepting what happened and why with your relationship will help you to emotionally move on.
5) The Hate Phase
Sometimes you will get the urge to lash out and scream especially if you know you gave it your all in this relationship. This anger stems from how bad the breakup was, what led up to it, and how long it took you two to do the inevitable.
You are angry because you feel that you have given your good bread to a dog. You just wished you could have broken it off sooner to save yourself some time, heartache, and money. Some of this anger will be projected at yourself, but you must quickly get rid of this feeling!
You are wasting precious energy and time over something you cannot change. And to be honest, if this was a bad relationship, you have wasted enough time and energy on this person. Replacing love with hate for your ex is never a good thing because it fosters the need to get revenge and this can land you in a whole lot of trouble.
6) Get Your Friends Involved
Get your friends involved in helping you get over this breakup with your ex. Your friends love you and will remind you of all the great things about you. They will help boost your self-confidence. When you have a strong network of empathetic, supportive, and understanding family and friends, you will be able to cope with your breakup and regain your emotional bearings.
7) Writing Can Be Therapeutic
Get yourself a diary and get all of your emotions out and don't worry about using proper grammar. This journal is for your eyes only. This is the time where you can be brutally honest with yourself of what is going on.
While you are writing, do not edit or cross out anything, just keep writing. When you see your actual thoughts out on paper, you will be surprised at what you are able to see what you could not before.
You will see patterns of certain behaviors of why you choose the persons you date. Life lessons that other people have been trying to teach you will become clearer. Don't think of this as a failed relationship.
Even though it did not work out with your ex, you have learned a valuable lesson about yourself. Obviously, this person wasn't the one and the right one is on his/her way. Your ex just moved aside to make way for your true love for life.
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I Miss My Boyfriend
If you are going through the,"I miss my boyfriend stage", this is normal even if you are the one who broke up with him. Whether you were ready for the break-up or not, the feelings that you have for him are not going to go away anytime soon especially if you two were together for awhile.
When you find yourself thinking," Did I make the right decision or I want him back." Then you should ask yourself," Is it wise to call him and tell him, can we work things out"?
Thinking About The Good 'ol Days
I understand how you feel. You are not alone in feeling this way. You are probably thinking about how good he smelled, the way he laughed, how he talked, and how you enjoyed the way he fixed you dinner. Maybe you are thinking about how much you had in common such as dancing; and coincidentally this is how you spent your first date, dancing the night away.
This is how most people feel after a break-up. You are not wrong in feeling this way. It is natural for you to feel this way because you miss those positive attributes that he brought into your life.
Becoming single again after being in a long-term relationship, you will have to deal with residual feelings of admiration, love, and adoration for your ex even if the break-up was mutual or one-sided. When you find yourself thinking about him, you automatically think of how he used to be in the beginning of your relationship instead of the negative things that tore you two apart.
Keep this in mind, if he was the ONE, you two would still be together. Was your ex the perfect guy? Well, I think not. For if he was, he would have found a way to make things work out between the two of you OR you would not have given him the heave ho.
Was It A Mistake To Break-Up?
When you have had some time and space from one another, you start thinking if your break-up was a mistake. Maybe the both of you said some things to each other that you really did not mean or you blew some situation way out of proportion.
Or, maybe the day you broke up you were already having a bad day and you inadvertently took it out on him. And after that horrible argument the two of you had, everything just got out of hand.
After you two have spent some time apart; and you have gotten to the bottom of the reason why you broke up, this may be a good time to call him and talk. If you two still love and care about one another, talking things out and hearing what the other has to say will help you to avoid the same mistakes again if you two decide to repair your relationship.
There is one important question you must honestly ask yourself. "Are you missing your boyfriend for the right reasons"? If you are missing him because you don't want to be single or you want him back because your BFFs have boyfriends, this is the wrong reason to get back together.
Take this time apart to put your relationship under a microscope and analyze why you miss him so much. What is it you miss about him? Are you truly in love with him? Or was he just someone to be with for the time being.
Should You Call Him Up?
The proper answer to this question depends on a few criteria. If you have carefully analyzed your relationship and why you broke up, and have come to the conclusion that you two deserve another chance, you should ring him up and ask him to meet you somewhere and talk.
If you dumped him, don't wait for him to call. He is probably too gun shy to make the first move or if he broke up with you, you are going to have to call him. He may not call you for feeling stupid about breaking-up with the best girl ever. So, whether he broke up with you or you broke up with him, you may have to make the first move in getting back together.
Before you decide to call him up and ask him for a sit down, do you really miss him for him or are you just lonely?
If you want to get back with your boyfriend just to pacify your loneliness, I have to say this is not a good idea. You want him back for superficial reasons. If he still loves you and you don't love him, getting back together for the wrong reasons will inevitably bring you back to another break-up.
If he broke up with you, I doubt he would treat you any differently if he behaved badly during the relationship. Regardless of who broke up with who, the relationship will not work if the both of you aren't in love with one another.
Two people who are truly in love with one another will make their relationship work even through the tough times. If you really miss your boyfriend for all of the right reasons, you should contact him to iron things out. He may want to talk to you too but he hasn't the courage.
When you find yourself thinking," Did I make the right decision or I want him back." Then you should ask yourself," Is it wise to call him and tell him, can we work things out"?
Thinking About The Good 'ol Days
I understand how you feel. You are not alone in feeling this way. You are probably thinking about how good he smelled, the way he laughed, how he talked, and how you enjoyed the way he fixed you dinner. Maybe you are thinking about how much you had in common such as dancing; and coincidentally this is how you spent your first date, dancing the night away.
This is how most people feel after a break-up. You are not wrong in feeling this way. It is natural for you to feel this way because you miss those positive attributes that he brought into your life.
Becoming single again after being in a long-term relationship, you will have to deal with residual feelings of admiration, love, and adoration for your ex even if the break-up was mutual or one-sided. When you find yourself thinking about him, you automatically think of how he used to be in the beginning of your relationship instead of the negative things that tore you two apart.
Keep this in mind, if he was the ONE, you two would still be together. Was your ex the perfect guy? Well, I think not. For if he was, he would have found a way to make things work out between the two of you OR you would not have given him the heave ho.
Was It A Mistake To Break-Up?
When you have had some time and space from one another, you start thinking if your break-up was a mistake. Maybe the both of you said some things to each other that you really did not mean or you blew some situation way out of proportion.
Or, maybe the day you broke up you were already having a bad day and you inadvertently took it out on him. And after that horrible argument the two of you had, everything just got out of hand.
After you two have spent some time apart; and you have gotten to the bottom of the reason why you broke up, this may be a good time to call him and talk. If you two still love and care about one another, talking things out and hearing what the other has to say will help you to avoid the same mistakes again if you two decide to repair your relationship.
There is one important question you must honestly ask yourself. "Are you missing your boyfriend for the right reasons"? If you are missing him because you don't want to be single or you want him back because your BFFs have boyfriends, this is the wrong reason to get back together.
Take this time apart to put your relationship under a microscope and analyze why you miss him so much. What is it you miss about him? Are you truly in love with him? Or was he just someone to be with for the time being.
Should You Call Him Up?
The proper answer to this question depends on a few criteria. If you have carefully analyzed your relationship and why you broke up, and have come to the conclusion that you two deserve another chance, you should ring him up and ask him to meet you somewhere and talk.
If you dumped him, don't wait for him to call. He is probably too gun shy to make the first move or if he broke up with you, you are going to have to call him. He may not call you for feeling stupid about breaking-up with the best girl ever. So, whether he broke up with you or you broke up with him, you may have to make the first move in getting back together.
Before you decide to call him up and ask him for a sit down, do you really miss him for him or are you just lonely?
If you want to get back with your boyfriend just to pacify your loneliness, I have to say this is not a good idea. You want him back for superficial reasons. If he still loves you and you don't love him, getting back together for the wrong reasons will inevitably bring you back to another break-up.
If he broke up with you, I doubt he would treat you any differently if he behaved badly during the relationship. Regardless of who broke up with who, the relationship will not work if the both of you aren't in love with one another.
Two people who are truly in love with one another will make their relationship work even through the tough times. If you really miss your boyfriend for all of the right reasons, you should contact him to iron things out. He may want to talk to you too but he hasn't the courage.
Saturday, February 2, 2013
How To Get Girls
The Law of Attraction and How To Get Girls
Before we go into deep discussion on how to get girls while using the law of attraction, we must first define what the law of attraction is. The law of attraction is a belief system that bases itself on "like attracts like." When you focus on positive or negative thoughts, whatever you think will be.
For example, when you see a girl that you like and you know she is out of your league but you say to yourself, "That girl is going to be my girlfriend" the law of attraction believes that this girl will be your girlfriend. I have seen first hand when someone has said, That is going to be my husband" and sure enough she married him. Now staying married is a whole different subject.
Although there is no scientific basis behind the law of attraction, this particular belief began in the early 1900s by an English writer James Allen, there has been cases where a person said something was going to happen no matter how far out it was, it happened. Now I know you don't want a history lesson on the law of attraction. I just thought I would give you a little background on where it originated.
Now, let's get to the good stuff. I am going to give you 5 guidelines on how to get girls using the law of attraction.
1) Set down in a quiet place and think about what type of girl you want to attract. Write in detail all the traits you want her to have ( sense of humor, high libido, intelligence, financially stable). When you write things down, this helps you to clearly focus on what you exactly want. This step is important. By knowing exactly what you want, you won't attract the wrong type of female. When you are done with your list, set it aside in a safe place. You may want to change some things later.
2) I know this sounds odd but you must love yourself. Most people wind up in crummy relationships because they do not love themselves and they attract the wrong mate. If you want the ideal girl to love you, you must love YOU first. Just as the Law states, "Like attracts like." If you don't like yourself, the girl you attract will not treat you well at all. So, before you start girl hunting, get to an emotional and mental place where you love yourself.
3) Discipline yourself to meditate and bring your mind to get rid of any negative thoughts or emotions. You need to have positive thoughts about giving love and receiving it. Start your day by doing some breathing exercises for 15 to 20 minutes a day concentrating on the power of love. The law of attraction states that the more love you have on the inside of you, the more love you radiate out towards the atmosphere, and love will come back to you in spades.
4) When you find yourself daydreaming, visualize loving scenarios; make them real to you. Whatever you focus your mind on, you will attract. When you imagine positive things happening to you, they will. Your imagination is your most valuable asset when it works in tandem with emotions. It's not enough to imagine the type of girl you want, you have to imagine how you will react when you finally meet her. When you imagine feeling joy and love when you meet her, your perfect girl wherever she may be will feel your positive emotions and therefore will be attracted to you.
5) I know this hard but you must be patient. Us humans want what we want when we want it and this is not always a good thing. Just remember that impatience is a negative emotion and you don't want any negativity flying around your positive aura. Being impatient to get the girl you want can hinder your progress. When you feel a bout of impatience coming on, replace it with something positive.
When you set your personal energy and thoughts to mirror the type of partner you want, you will find the girl that is a perfect match for you.
Before we go into deep discussion on how to get girls while using the law of attraction, we must first define what the law of attraction is. The law of attraction is a belief system that bases itself on "like attracts like." When you focus on positive or negative thoughts, whatever you think will be.
For example, when you see a girl that you like and you know she is out of your league but you say to yourself, "That girl is going to be my girlfriend" the law of attraction believes that this girl will be your girlfriend. I have seen first hand when someone has said, That is going to be my husband" and sure enough she married him. Now staying married is a whole different subject.
Although there is no scientific basis behind the law of attraction, this particular belief began in the early 1900s by an English writer James Allen, there has been cases where a person said something was going to happen no matter how far out it was, it happened. Now I know you don't want a history lesson on the law of attraction. I just thought I would give you a little background on where it originated.
Now, let's get to the good stuff. I am going to give you 5 guidelines on how to get girls using the law of attraction.
1) Set down in a quiet place and think about what type of girl you want to attract. Write in detail all the traits you want her to have ( sense of humor, high libido, intelligence, financially stable). When you write things down, this helps you to clearly focus on what you exactly want. This step is important. By knowing exactly what you want, you won't attract the wrong type of female. When you are done with your list, set it aside in a safe place. You may want to change some things later.
2) I know this sounds odd but you must love yourself. Most people wind up in crummy relationships because they do not love themselves and they attract the wrong mate. If you want the ideal girl to love you, you must love YOU first. Just as the Law states, "Like attracts like." If you don't like yourself, the girl you attract will not treat you well at all. So, before you start girl hunting, get to an emotional and mental place where you love yourself.
3) Discipline yourself to meditate and bring your mind to get rid of any negative thoughts or emotions. You need to have positive thoughts about giving love and receiving it. Start your day by doing some breathing exercises for 15 to 20 minutes a day concentrating on the power of love. The law of attraction states that the more love you have on the inside of you, the more love you radiate out towards the atmosphere, and love will come back to you in spades.
4) When you find yourself daydreaming, visualize loving scenarios; make them real to you. Whatever you focus your mind on, you will attract. When you imagine positive things happening to you, they will. Your imagination is your most valuable asset when it works in tandem with emotions. It's not enough to imagine the type of girl you want, you have to imagine how you will react when you finally meet her. When you imagine feeling joy and love when you meet her, your perfect girl wherever she may be will feel your positive emotions and therefore will be attracted to you.
5) I know this hard but you must be patient. Us humans want what we want when we want it and this is not always a good thing. Just remember that impatience is a negative emotion and you don't want any negativity flying around your positive aura. Being impatient to get the girl you want can hinder your progress. When you feel a bout of impatience coming on, replace it with something positive.
When you set your personal energy and thoughts to mirror the type of partner you want, you will find the girl that is a perfect match for you.
Monday, January 21, 2013
Magic Of Making Up E-Book Review
The Magic Of Making Up
e-book course will: stop your relationship from breaking up for good,
stop a lover's rejection, and keep a marriage intact even if saving your
relationship seems hopeless! The author of this e-book will take you by
the hand, and show you exactly what to say and do to get your ex back.
You will be able to recapture your ex's heart, mind, body, and soul.
If you are experiencing: pain, confusion, loss of appetite, depression, wanting to call your ex several times a day, binge eating, having an uncontrollable urge to spy on your ex, or even rehearsing over and over in your head what would you say to them if you saw him or her. You can get relief from all of these painful symptoms and behaviors when you download The Magic Of Making Up.
After you download this amazing book, you will get immediate access to the author's Fast Forward Technique to help get your thoughts in order. When you put this technique into action you will experience instant relief from the emotional pain of depression and heartache that a break-up can cause.
You will discover if your ex still cares about you even if he or she does not show it. You will learn about the tell-tale hints and clues your ex's behavior says about how he or she feels about the break-up. Believe it or not, he or she still loves you.
What if your partner had an affair? How do you deal with this but you still want him or her back? You will have total access to the author's bag of magic tricks and tips men and women use to horn in on others relationships. If another woman stole your man, you will find out how to neutralize her power she has over him by knowing the ONE thing he wants more than sports, food, and even sex.
Does anyone know the real reason why men leave their women for someone else, do you? The author of this e-book knows and he will share this knowledge with you. The reasons you are thinking are not so. Maybe you think men leave women for someone more beautiful, sexy, or even younger than you. This could be far from the truth. Men truly desire ONE thing. When you discover this ONE thing, he will be yours forever.
What if you are a man reading this article, do you know what women crave the most? If she doesn't get this ONE thing, she will find someone else who will give it to her. This is one of the fastest ways to get your girlfriend back once you have mastered this easy technique. This is the same technique that "Don Juan's use to get other men's wives into their bed.
If you are the one who had the affair and you deeply regret this, all is not lost. You can still get him or her back. The author describes in great detail a technique that you can use to wipe the slate clean and get forgiveness in a short period of time without twisting in the wind.
Did you know that saying, "I'm sorry" is not always the best thing to do? Under the right circumstances, and apology is in order, read this book to find out when and when not to apologize and to keep it from blowing up in your face. You will also learn many more secrets to keeping your relationship alive and intact.
The advice, principles and techniques described in The Magic Of Making Up has helped countless women and men win back their sweethearts. Let T.W. Jackson, who is the bestselling author of this book help you to put your relationship back together again.
If you are experiencing: pain, confusion, loss of appetite, depression, wanting to call your ex several times a day, binge eating, having an uncontrollable urge to spy on your ex, or even rehearsing over and over in your head what would you say to them if you saw him or her. You can get relief from all of these painful symptoms and behaviors when you download The Magic Of Making Up.
After you download this amazing book, you will get immediate access to the author's Fast Forward Technique to help get your thoughts in order. When you put this technique into action you will experience instant relief from the emotional pain of depression and heartache that a break-up can cause.
You will discover if your ex still cares about you even if he or she does not show it. You will learn about the tell-tale hints and clues your ex's behavior says about how he or she feels about the break-up. Believe it or not, he or she still loves you.
What if your partner had an affair? How do you deal with this but you still want him or her back? You will have total access to the author's bag of magic tricks and tips men and women use to horn in on others relationships. If another woman stole your man, you will find out how to neutralize her power she has over him by knowing the ONE thing he wants more than sports, food, and even sex.
Does anyone know the real reason why men leave their women for someone else, do you? The author of this e-book knows and he will share this knowledge with you. The reasons you are thinking are not so. Maybe you think men leave women for someone more beautiful, sexy, or even younger than you. This could be far from the truth. Men truly desire ONE thing. When you discover this ONE thing, he will be yours forever.
What if you are a man reading this article, do you know what women crave the most? If she doesn't get this ONE thing, she will find someone else who will give it to her. This is one of the fastest ways to get your girlfriend back once you have mastered this easy technique. This is the same technique that "Don Juan's use to get other men's wives into their bed.
If you are the one who had the affair and you deeply regret this, all is not lost. You can still get him or her back. The author describes in great detail a technique that you can use to wipe the slate clean and get forgiveness in a short period of time without twisting in the wind.
Did you know that saying, "I'm sorry" is not always the best thing to do? Under the right circumstances, and apology is in order, read this book to find out when and when not to apologize and to keep it from blowing up in your face. You will also learn many more secrets to keeping your relationship alive and intact.
The advice, principles and techniques described in The Magic Of Making Up has helped countless women and men win back their sweethearts. Let T.W. Jackson, who is the bestselling author of this book help you to put your relationship back together again.
I Want My Ex Back
Do You Want Your Ex To Want You Again?
When you break up with someone you love, it can be a painful thing. If you want your ex back, fortunately for you, there are certain things that you can do to win him or her back into your life, especially if the break up was the wrong thing to do for the both of you.
Your life does not need to be full of regrets because you let the right one get away. You can seize the moment right now and right a wrong to get your relationship back on track.
Here are some simple suggestions for you to do that have helped couples in the past get back together. These helpful tips will have your ex wanting you back in no time at all.
Put Your Best Face Forward
Making some small improvements in the way you look can make a big difference. For instance, get a new hairdo, change your make-up style, get in better physical shape, or even get a new wardrobe. This is one sure fire way that will get your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend to want you back in their life. When you improve on your outer appearance, it makes you more desirable.
When you appeal to your ex's senses, he or she will take a second look at you and wonder why he or she broke it off with you in the first place. If you don't take the care and effort to maintain a desirable appearance, what does that say to your ex?
How will you take care of him or her? If you love and respect yourself by taking good care of your body and appearance, your ex will assume that you will take care of him or her that same way.
Don't Have A Negative Attitude
Having a positive attitude is like a sweet smelling flower, you want to be near them both. Nobody wants to be around someone whom is always negative and in a foul mood. When you have a positive outlook, this will appeal to your ex and want to spend more time with you.
Having an attitude that is positive will affect your overall appearance. Your smile will be more cheerful; you will have a pep in your step; and your conversations will be more delightful. Not only will your ex find you more attractive but other people will notice you as well.
A person's attitude affects their health, their appearance, their finances, as well as their relationships. Having a positive attitude not only improves your chances of winning him or her back but it can also work wonders for other aspects of your life.
Walk Down Memory Lane
The fact that you two have a past with one another, this could work to your advantage. You have inside information about him or her that a new love interest does not know. You know where he or she loves to eat; you know his or her idiosyncrasies; you know your ex's likes and dislikes, and you know his or her favorite flavor of ice cream and where to go get it.
The best way to use this type of information is to surprise him or her with their favorite flavor of ice cream and get it from their favorite place. This will let your ex know that you haven't forgotten the little things that matter to him or her.
Remind Your Ex Of The Good Old Days
When you and your ex decide to talk things over, walk him or her down memory lane. Remind him or her of what fun you two had together when you engaged in certain activities. This could be a great way to remind your ex of how similar you two are and how much you enjoy doing the same things.
This tactic can make you very appealing and irresistible to your ex. This will also remind him or her what he or she loves about you and maybe it wouldn't be such a good idea to break up after all.
Reminding your ex of the past shows that the moments you shared together meant a lot to you, enough for you to remember them so vividly. The above guidelines and suggestions are not set in stone but they will help you get back in the nook with your ex.
When you break up with someone you love, it can be a painful thing. If you want your ex back, fortunately for you, there are certain things that you can do to win him or her back into your life, especially if the break up was the wrong thing to do for the both of you.
Your life does not need to be full of regrets because you let the right one get away. You can seize the moment right now and right a wrong to get your relationship back on track.
Here are some simple suggestions for you to do that have helped couples in the past get back together. These helpful tips will have your ex wanting you back in no time at all.
Put Your Best Face Forward
Making some small improvements in the way you look can make a big difference. For instance, get a new hairdo, change your make-up style, get in better physical shape, or even get a new wardrobe. This is one sure fire way that will get your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend to want you back in their life. When you improve on your outer appearance, it makes you more desirable.
When you appeal to your ex's senses, he or she will take a second look at you and wonder why he or she broke it off with you in the first place. If you don't take the care and effort to maintain a desirable appearance, what does that say to your ex?
How will you take care of him or her? If you love and respect yourself by taking good care of your body and appearance, your ex will assume that you will take care of him or her that same way.
Don't Have A Negative Attitude
Having a positive attitude is like a sweet smelling flower, you want to be near them both. Nobody wants to be around someone whom is always negative and in a foul mood. When you have a positive outlook, this will appeal to your ex and want to spend more time with you.
Having an attitude that is positive will affect your overall appearance. Your smile will be more cheerful; you will have a pep in your step; and your conversations will be more delightful. Not only will your ex find you more attractive but other people will notice you as well.
A person's attitude affects their health, their appearance, their finances, as well as their relationships. Having a positive attitude not only improves your chances of winning him or her back but it can also work wonders for other aspects of your life.
Walk Down Memory Lane
The fact that you two have a past with one another, this could work to your advantage. You have inside information about him or her that a new love interest does not know. You know where he or she loves to eat; you know his or her idiosyncrasies; you know your ex's likes and dislikes, and you know his or her favorite flavor of ice cream and where to go get it.
The best way to use this type of information is to surprise him or her with their favorite flavor of ice cream and get it from their favorite place. This will let your ex know that you haven't forgotten the little things that matter to him or her.
Remind Your Ex Of The Good Old Days
When you and your ex decide to talk things over, walk him or her down memory lane. Remind him or her of what fun you two had together when you engaged in certain activities. This could be a great way to remind your ex of how similar you two are and how much you enjoy doing the same things.
This tactic can make you very appealing and irresistible to your ex. This will also remind him or her what he or she loves about you and maybe it wouldn't be such a good idea to break up after all.
Reminding your ex of the past shows that the moments you shared together meant a lot to you, enough for you to remember them so vividly. The above guidelines and suggestions are not set in stone but they will help you get back in the nook with your ex.
How To Win Him Back
The Fastest Way To Win Him Back
Knowing what the right things to say and do to win him back are crucial to putting your relationship back together again. I have a few suggestions that will help you get back your ex. I hope these helpful suggestions will help you make the right choice when deciding to get back with your boyfriend.
Why Did You Break Up?
Before you jump in head first wanting your boyfriend back, you must determine first, why did you break up in the first place? By answering this question honestly, this will help you to decide if the relationship is worth salvaging. For example, did he cheat on you? Can you trust him? If he cheated on you, he really didn't love you in the first place. If his heart is filled with you, there will be no room for no one else.
Knowing what caused the demise of the relationship, will help you to repair it if this is what you really want. If he cheated on you, how could this have been avoided? Did you force him into someone else’s arms? If you do win him back, do you really want him back?
Accept That Neither One Of You Is Perfect
Once you know what lead up to your break up whether it was infidelity or some other issue, people have faults. No one is perfect, not even the love of your life. He and you will make mistakes that will tick the other off at times. The two of you must learn how to handle one another's faults; and you must learn to forgive each other and move on. This will help you to understand why you broke up, and help you to emotionally heal if the two of you decide on reconciliation,
Communication Is Key
One of the key components of a relationship is active and open communication. Ironing out your differences by talking and listening to one another can help you win him back. Talking about your past issues will give you both a chance to voice your concerns, likes, and dislikes about different things that occurred during your relationship.
By doing this, you both offer each other some comfort and closure. While you have this time with him, say everything you wanted to say about how things went down with you two, especially the issues you failed to discuss while you were going together. For example, if you had a problem with him being best friends with his ex, let him know this. Maybe this is the main cause why you broke up.
It Is No Harm To Compromise
Compromising with your ex is not the same thing as settling for less. Both men and women have this misconception that if you compromise, you are settling for less than what you want in order to delight the other person.
This could be furthest from the truth. In a relationship sense, compromise means that a common ground is met where you both agree and are happy about the decision. For example, if he insists on being best friends with his ex, a compromise would be that when you two are together, he is not to talk or text her on the phone.
Nor should he invite her over to your home, especially if you live together. He can still be friends with her but their friendship should not interfere with his new relationship with you. The point of compromising is that you both retain your individuality and space while the both of you remain happy in spite of your differences. One person shouldn't be happy while the other is miserable. This is settling.
Come To A Resolution
A resolution is met when you have exhaustively discussed what the problems were in your relationship and how you will work through them to stay together because you still love and care for one another. The next step is to follow through on what you two agreed to work on.
The resolution that you both agree to must be something that you both can live with and that it will strengthen your relationship. I can't promise you that by implementing these suggestions will win him back but it will certainly improve your chances.
Knowing what the right things to say and do to win him back are crucial to putting your relationship back together again. I have a few suggestions that will help you get back your ex. I hope these helpful suggestions will help you make the right choice when deciding to get back with your boyfriend.
Why Did You Break Up?
Before you jump in head first wanting your boyfriend back, you must determine first, why did you break up in the first place? By answering this question honestly, this will help you to decide if the relationship is worth salvaging. For example, did he cheat on you? Can you trust him? If he cheated on you, he really didn't love you in the first place. If his heart is filled with you, there will be no room for no one else.
Knowing what caused the demise of the relationship, will help you to repair it if this is what you really want. If he cheated on you, how could this have been avoided? Did you force him into someone else’s arms? If you do win him back, do you really want him back?
Accept That Neither One Of You Is Perfect
Once you know what lead up to your break up whether it was infidelity or some other issue, people have faults. No one is perfect, not even the love of your life. He and you will make mistakes that will tick the other off at times. The two of you must learn how to handle one another's faults; and you must learn to forgive each other and move on. This will help you to understand why you broke up, and help you to emotionally heal if the two of you decide on reconciliation,
Communication Is Key
One of the key components of a relationship is active and open communication. Ironing out your differences by talking and listening to one another can help you win him back. Talking about your past issues will give you both a chance to voice your concerns, likes, and dislikes about different things that occurred during your relationship.
By doing this, you both offer each other some comfort and closure. While you have this time with him, say everything you wanted to say about how things went down with you two, especially the issues you failed to discuss while you were going together. For example, if you had a problem with him being best friends with his ex, let him know this. Maybe this is the main cause why you broke up.
It Is No Harm To Compromise
Compromising with your ex is not the same thing as settling for less. Both men and women have this misconception that if you compromise, you are settling for less than what you want in order to delight the other person.
This could be furthest from the truth. In a relationship sense, compromise means that a common ground is met where you both agree and are happy about the decision. For example, if he insists on being best friends with his ex, a compromise would be that when you two are together, he is not to talk or text her on the phone.
Nor should he invite her over to your home, especially if you live together. He can still be friends with her but their friendship should not interfere with his new relationship with you. The point of compromising is that you both retain your individuality and space while the both of you remain happy in spite of your differences. One person shouldn't be happy while the other is miserable. This is settling.
Come To A Resolution
A resolution is met when you have exhaustively discussed what the problems were in your relationship and how you will work through them to stay together because you still love and care for one another. The next step is to follow through on what you two agreed to work on.
The resolution that you both agree to must be something that you both can live with and that it will strengthen your relationship. I can't promise you that by implementing these suggestions will win him back but it will certainly improve your chances.
How To Get A Boyfriend
Are
you feeling insecure and anxious about how to get a boyfriend? Or, has your
relationship lost its excitement, and you notice he does not look at
you the way he used to, maybe you two have fallen into a relationship
rut. Don't worry dear, all is not lost. You can save your relationship
and get him to look at you like he did when you two first began dating.
Let's discuss how this is done.
If you know what went wrong in your relationship and the problem lies with you, then you need to change your behavior towards him. This is good news because you know what the problem is; now we can fix it and return things back to what they once were. Here are some good tips that apply to getting a boyfriend and getting your boyfriend back.
Insecurity and Anxiety Does Not Help a Relationship
If you know you can be possessive and pushy, quitting this behavior can be difficult. You need to break this cycle that is damaging your relationships. If you are insecure all the time about your relationships, this can lead to anxiety. This constant state of anxiousness will leave you dull, sulky, and irritable. This type of person is no fun to be around.
If you continue down this path, this will ultimately destroy your ability to keep a relationship. Anxiety and insecurity will drive a wedge between you and him. This will make it more difficult for him or anyone to want you. When you two are together, don't be accusative towards him or needle him. You need to have a calm and gentle spirit about you when you spend time together.
Do You Know What Attracted Him To You In The First Place?
When you begin to change your mood and attitude towards him, ask him what attracted you to him. If you don't have the courage to ask him this, then just think about it.
How Have Things Changed Between You Two Since You First Met?
Ask yourself some hard questions like; has your appearance changed? Have you developed ugly annoying habits? Are you letting your friends make decisions in your relationship? If any of the above is true, you should spruce up your appearance, drop the bad habits, and tell your friends to butt out.
For example, if he raved over your cooking and loved the variety of foods you prepared for him, then you should cook some of the things he loves, resume this behavior. Furthermore, if he loved the way you dressed up when you went out on the town, you should resume this behavior as well.
You should also try doing something different with your hair and make-up that will WOW him. When you do little things like this, it goes a long way in getting the spark back in your relationship. The love and respect he has for you will be renewed; and you will be well on your way to saving your relationship.
How Do You Deal With Stress?
If you have been moody or on edge due to stress related to work or something else, don't take it out on your boyfriend. Instead of attacking him, talk to him about what is going on with you. A depressed, moody, and argumentative woman is not attractive. Your boyfriend may be pulling away from you for this reason.
You and your boyfriend should do something fun and exciting together. It will help to smooth over the rough patch you two are going through. The two of you should go out of town and get a change of scenery, spend a week-end at a bed and breakfast. Doing this will help with your mood and strengthen your relationship.
Do You Complain Too Much?
If moodiness, stress, or being argumentative isn't the problem, then analyze your behavior further. Something is causing your boyfriend to be distant and far from you emotionally. For example, have you been complaining about his choice of clothes to wear, the friends he chooses to hang around with, or do you nick pick at him how he chews his food?
If this is what you are doing, this is not helping your relationship. This will only lead him to resent you and want you less. If certain habits that he does bother you, it is better to talk to him in a calm and loving manner. Keep in mind that you are not perfect either.
When you put these suggested guidelines into use, your attractiveness and mood will improve. You will then begin to notice that your boyfriend will find you irresistible just like he had in the beginning of your relationship. If you want to get a boyfriend, the guidelines above will improve your chances of attracting the right person for you.
If you know what went wrong in your relationship and the problem lies with you, then you need to change your behavior towards him. This is good news because you know what the problem is; now we can fix it and return things back to what they once were. Here are some good tips that apply to getting a boyfriend and getting your boyfriend back.
Insecurity and Anxiety Does Not Help a Relationship
If you know you can be possessive and pushy, quitting this behavior can be difficult. You need to break this cycle that is damaging your relationships. If you are insecure all the time about your relationships, this can lead to anxiety. This constant state of anxiousness will leave you dull, sulky, and irritable. This type of person is no fun to be around.
If you continue down this path, this will ultimately destroy your ability to keep a relationship. Anxiety and insecurity will drive a wedge between you and him. This will make it more difficult for him or anyone to want you. When you two are together, don't be accusative towards him or needle him. You need to have a calm and gentle spirit about you when you spend time together.
Do You Know What Attracted Him To You In The First Place?
When you begin to change your mood and attitude towards him, ask him what attracted you to him. If you don't have the courage to ask him this, then just think about it.
How Have Things Changed Between You Two Since You First Met?
Ask yourself some hard questions like; has your appearance changed? Have you developed ugly annoying habits? Are you letting your friends make decisions in your relationship? If any of the above is true, you should spruce up your appearance, drop the bad habits, and tell your friends to butt out.
For example, if he raved over your cooking and loved the variety of foods you prepared for him, then you should cook some of the things he loves, resume this behavior. Furthermore, if he loved the way you dressed up when you went out on the town, you should resume this behavior as well.
You should also try doing something different with your hair and make-up that will WOW him. When you do little things like this, it goes a long way in getting the spark back in your relationship. The love and respect he has for you will be renewed; and you will be well on your way to saving your relationship.
How Do You Deal With Stress?
If you have been moody or on edge due to stress related to work or something else, don't take it out on your boyfriend. Instead of attacking him, talk to him about what is going on with you. A depressed, moody, and argumentative woman is not attractive. Your boyfriend may be pulling away from you for this reason.
You and your boyfriend should do something fun and exciting together. It will help to smooth over the rough patch you two are going through. The two of you should go out of town and get a change of scenery, spend a week-end at a bed and breakfast. Doing this will help with your mood and strengthen your relationship.
Do You Complain Too Much?
If moodiness, stress, or being argumentative isn't the problem, then analyze your behavior further. Something is causing your boyfriend to be distant and far from you emotionally. For example, have you been complaining about his choice of clothes to wear, the friends he chooses to hang around with, or do you nick pick at him how he chews his food?
If this is what you are doing, this is not helping your relationship. This will only lead him to resent you and want you less. If certain habits that he does bother you, it is better to talk to him in a calm and loving manner. Keep in mind that you are not perfect either.
When you put these suggested guidelines into use, your attractiveness and mood will improve. You will then begin to notice that your boyfriend will find you irresistible just like he had in the beginning of your relationship. If you want to get a boyfriend, the guidelines above will improve your chances of attracting the right person for you.
How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
Knowing how to get your ex girlfriend back can sometimes be difficult if you had an
on again off again relationship and/or when you broke up it was
unpleasant. Before I reveal to you how to get your her back,
there are a few things I need for you to consider before making that
move.
You want to be certain you won't make the same mistakes twice that lead to your break up in the first place. You don't want to get back into a relationship again to break up again.
Before thinking about getting back with your ex, I need you to think about the considerations below to be sure that the decision you want to make is the right one, repairing your relationship.
Why Did You Breakup In The First Place?
Before you even think about rekindling a relationship with her, remember why you broke up in the first place. Did she cheat on you? Was she a chronic liar? Did she have ugly disgusting habits that just grossed you out?
In a quiet place, ask yourself why and then honestly answer the question. Whatever your initial response is, this is how you truly feel about the break up. If you broke up for some ridiculous frivolous reason, then maybe you should give your relationship another go.
When asking yourself a question like this, you must be absolutely honest with yourself. Don't play the blame game. If the fault lies with you admit it. If it was her fault, you need to decide if this relationship is truly worth fighting for.
If it was your fault for the break up and you really want her back, you need to change whatever behavior is damaging your relationship. Also before you approach her for a reconciliation, deal with your emotions first. Don't approach her in an angry or accusative mood. Deal with your emotions first, then approach her for a reconciliation.
Accept That the Relationship Is Over
Once you know why you two broke up, you have to deal with that and work through the hurt you feel. If you have heard the saying, “the quickest way to get over someone is to get under someone else." This is 100% FALSE! You won't be able to emotionally move on until you have dealt with the fact that you and your ex are truly over.
This will keep you from making the same mistakes over and over again. It will also help you heal emotionally from a break up of someone you deeply cared about and allow her to move on with her life.
To properly heal emotionally after a break up means to accept that you and your ex girlfriend will no longer be a couple. Use this time while you are single to know what lead to the demise of your relationship so that it won't happen again.
Why Do You Want To Get Back Together With Her?
This is a very important question. Do you want to get back with her because she was good in bed, or do you want to get back with her because she was pretty and you made your friends jealous with her on your arm? If you really did not truly love or care about her, then it is best to move on and find that special someone you can truly love and care for.
Whatever reason you have for getting back with your girlfriend, make sure you think about it thoroughly and be sure you include her feelings as well as your own as you make your decision. Mulling over this whole break up issue will save the both of you more heartache and pain if getting back together is not the right decision.
Communicate With Each Other
Talking and listening to each other are the two most important things you two can do for one another when considering getting back together. This talking and listening exercise will help to iron out some differences you have as well as cement some likes and dislikes you both share.
When you are talking to her, don't talk to her in an accusative tone, don't yell at her or pick a fight. This will only make matters worse. Let her say what she has to say and just sit and listen, do not interrupt. You'll be amazed what this will do for your relationship.
How you two handle this non-confrontational discussion could be the deciding factor if you two will have a future together or not.
You want to be certain you won't make the same mistakes twice that lead to your break up in the first place. You don't want to get back into a relationship again to break up again.
Before thinking about getting back with your ex, I need you to think about the considerations below to be sure that the decision you want to make is the right one, repairing your relationship.
Why Did You Breakup In The First Place?
Before you even think about rekindling a relationship with her, remember why you broke up in the first place. Did she cheat on you? Was she a chronic liar? Did she have ugly disgusting habits that just grossed you out?
In a quiet place, ask yourself why and then honestly answer the question. Whatever your initial response is, this is how you truly feel about the break up. If you broke up for some ridiculous frivolous reason, then maybe you should give your relationship another go.
When asking yourself a question like this, you must be absolutely honest with yourself. Don't play the blame game. If the fault lies with you admit it. If it was her fault, you need to decide if this relationship is truly worth fighting for.
If it was your fault for the break up and you really want her back, you need to change whatever behavior is damaging your relationship. Also before you approach her for a reconciliation, deal with your emotions first. Don't approach her in an angry or accusative mood. Deal with your emotions first, then approach her for a reconciliation.
Accept That the Relationship Is Over
Once you know why you two broke up, you have to deal with that and work through the hurt you feel. If you have heard the saying, “the quickest way to get over someone is to get under someone else." This is 100% FALSE! You won't be able to emotionally move on until you have dealt with the fact that you and your ex are truly over.
This will keep you from making the same mistakes over and over again. It will also help you heal emotionally from a break up of someone you deeply cared about and allow her to move on with her life.
To properly heal emotionally after a break up means to accept that you and your ex girlfriend will no longer be a couple. Use this time while you are single to know what lead to the demise of your relationship so that it won't happen again.
Why Do You Want To Get Back Together With Her?
This is a very important question. Do you want to get back with her because she was good in bed, or do you want to get back with her because she was pretty and you made your friends jealous with her on your arm? If you really did not truly love or care about her, then it is best to move on and find that special someone you can truly love and care for.
Whatever reason you have for getting back with your girlfriend, make sure you think about it thoroughly and be sure you include her feelings as well as your own as you make your decision. Mulling over this whole break up issue will save the both of you more heartache and pain if getting back together is not the right decision.
Communicate With Each Other
Talking and listening to each other are the two most important things you two can do for one another when considering getting back together. This talking and listening exercise will help to iron out some differences you have as well as cement some likes and dislikes you both share.
When you are talking to her, don't talk to her in an accusative tone, don't yell at her or pick a fight. This will only make matters worse. Let her say what she has to say and just sit and listen, do not interrupt. You'll be amazed what this will do for your relationship.
How you two handle this non-confrontational discussion could be the deciding factor if you two will have a future together or not.
How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
How to get your ex boyfriend back. Do
you miss your boyfriend, and are you regretting the break-up already?
Or, did you break-up with him and now realize that it was a terrible
mistake? Getting back together with an ex is not an easy task but it
isn't too difficult either. So Let's discuss how to get the love of your life back.
Realize this sweetheart, people break up in relationships all the time. It is not the end of the world although it feels like it. If you approach your break up the wrong way, you may lose him for good, especially if you deeply regret the break up in the first place. It just so happens that there are a few things you can do to help you get back your man and rekindle the romance you once had.
Prepare His Favorite Foods
Have you ever heard of the old adage, "the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? Most men’s heart will melt when a woman fawns over them in this manner. Everyone wants to be made a fuss over every once in awhile, including men.
When a man is being fed by his woman, he will begin to subconsciously begin to think of you as his wife. This signifies that if you can cook and nourish him with good food, you will make an excellent wife someday.
Deep down, he wants to be coddled, cared for, and fussed over a bit. Cook your ex boyfriend a meal, preferably some of his favorite foods, and he will soon realize the possible future that he could have with you if ever you do get back together.
Give Him Emotional Support
Most guys really only want a few essential things from their girlfriends. One of those essential things is emotional support. When you offer your ex boyfriend the emotional support he needs, this helps to make him feel secure in knowing that whatever he may face in life good or bad, you will help him to see it through.
By doing this, you will greatly improve your chances of winning him back. When you give your unconditional emotional support to him, this will allow him to let his emotional guard down because he is secure in knowing that you will support him on whatever decisions he makes.
Reverse Roles
Although we are accustomed to seeing men chase and woo women in our society, reverse roles a little bit and chase after him. Make him feel like he is the most desirable man on earth. You'd be surprised at the response you'll get.
By chasing and wooing him, this proves to him that you will go above and beyond the norm to get him back in the nook and into your life forever. He may not respond to the wooing right away because as you know men want to maintain a tough exterior. They don't want to appear to be weak. Don't give up, he is enjoying every minute of you chasing him even though he may not show it.
Be Blunt! Ask For What You Want
If the above tips do not work over several weeks, just be blunt and tell him you miss him and you want him back. Hearing this is sure to melt his heart. Most men, especially the ones that still care for you, can't bear to see you in emotional turmoil.
Before you ask him to get back together with you, rehearse what you will say in the mirror or with a close friend or relative. You don't want to sound needy or desperate.
Whether it is a man or a woman, a man wants a girl to want him for him and not just to be in a relationship. You can find a relationship with anybody but there is only one him. When you follow these few guidelines, this is how you get your ex boyfriend back.
Realize this sweetheart, people break up in relationships all the time. It is not the end of the world although it feels like it. If you approach your break up the wrong way, you may lose him for good, especially if you deeply regret the break up in the first place. It just so happens that there are a few things you can do to help you get back your man and rekindle the romance you once had.
Prepare His Favorite Foods
Have you ever heard of the old adage, "the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? Most men’s heart will melt when a woman fawns over them in this manner. Everyone wants to be made a fuss over every once in awhile, including men.
When a man is being fed by his woman, he will begin to subconsciously begin to think of you as his wife. This signifies that if you can cook and nourish him with good food, you will make an excellent wife someday.
Deep down, he wants to be coddled, cared for, and fussed over a bit. Cook your ex boyfriend a meal, preferably some of his favorite foods, and he will soon realize the possible future that he could have with you if ever you do get back together.
Give Him Emotional Support
Most guys really only want a few essential things from their girlfriends. One of those essential things is emotional support. When you offer your ex boyfriend the emotional support he needs, this helps to make him feel secure in knowing that whatever he may face in life good or bad, you will help him to see it through.
By doing this, you will greatly improve your chances of winning him back. When you give your unconditional emotional support to him, this will allow him to let his emotional guard down because he is secure in knowing that you will support him on whatever decisions he makes.
Reverse Roles
Although we are accustomed to seeing men chase and woo women in our society, reverse roles a little bit and chase after him. Make him feel like he is the most desirable man on earth. You'd be surprised at the response you'll get.
By chasing and wooing him, this proves to him that you will go above and beyond the norm to get him back in the nook and into your life forever. He may not respond to the wooing right away because as you know men want to maintain a tough exterior. They don't want to appear to be weak. Don't give up, he is enjoying every minute of you chasing him even though he may not show it.
Be Blunt! Ask For What You Want
If the above tips do not work over several weeks, just be blunt and tell him you miss him and you want him back. Hearing this is sure to melt his heart. Most men, especially the ones that still care for you, can't bear to see you in emotional turmoil.
Before you ask him to get back together with you, rehearse what you will say in the mirror or with a close friend or relative. You don't want to sound needy or desperate.
Whether it is a man or a woman, a man wants a girl to want him for him and not just to be in a relationship. You can find a relationship with anybody but there is only one him. When you follow these few guidelines, this is how you get your ex boyfriend back.
Get Your Ex Back
Knowing how to get your ex back may not be an easy
thing to do if your relationship was rocky and the break up was messy. Regardless
if you are married or not, a relationship break up can be extremely
difficult on your emotional and mental health, especially more so, if
you both have children together.
But luck is on your side, and I will give you a few tips on what you can do to get your ex back into your good graces again. These simple methods have worked in the past to put families back together again.
If you have broken off your relationship with your ex or you are separated from your spouse, fear not your decision is not a done deal. You can still save your relationship!
Follow these simple guidelines to win back the love of your life and your reason for breathing.
Give Yourself A New Look
When men and women get comfortable in their relationships, they tend to let themselves go. They no longer try as hard to maintain an attractive appearance. One good way to get your ex back is to remind him or her what they are missing and they can't get it anywhere else.
You can do this by getting in shape physically, try a new cosmetic, get a new hairdo, and buy some nice outfits. Wear clothes that you know your ex loves to see you in. In other words, put a new coat of wax on the old Chevy!
When you begin to work out and wear some different new clothes, your self-confidence will get a boost and you will get the attention you seek from your ex. Getting yourself cleaned up and taking some pride in your appearance tells your ex that what she or he thinks of you is important and that his or her opinions matter enough for you to make a change.
Jog Your Ex's Memory
This is a good way to let your ex know why he or she fell for you in the first place. This is another good way to get your ex back. If you two were always on the go and you did exciting things while you were in the early stages of dating, surprise him or her with a week-end vacation and visit some of your old haunts to bring some happy memories back.
A week-end vacation gives the two of you a change of scenery and before you know it, you will be talking about how fun it was when you two first began dating. You never know, you guys might get back together that week-end.
Surprises Can Be Good
Do something unexpected for your ex that he or she would not expect you to do but he or she would want you to do. For instance, if he or she has been wanting you to engage in an activity like going to a sports game with him or sending her flowers at work, do it unexpectedly.
This will help prove to your ex that you are willing to put his or her wants first and do whatever it takes to win his or her heart back again. This also shows that you are willing to make the effort to change, to make it worth his or her wile to give you another chance. Remember, if this method works, you have to be willing to change permanently; not just to get him or her back and return to your old habits.
Make a Promise
To help seal the deal again, promise your ex that things will be different if he or she takes you back. This will also greatly improve the likelihood that you two will have a future together. You should make an honest effort in making these changes you promised. Doesn't your ex deserve the best you have to offer?
If your efforts are not sincere to get your ex back, you face the consequence of breaking up again and permanently ruining your relationship. Before you implement the above suggestions, make sure you want your ex back for all the right reasons so that your efforts won't be in vain.
But luck is on your side, and I will give you a few tips on what you can do to get your ex back into your good graces again. These simple methods have worked in the past to put families back together again.
If you have broken off your relationship with your ex or you are separated from your spouse, fear not your decision is not a done deal. You can still save your relationship!
Follow these simple guidelines to win back the love of your life and your reason for breathing.
Give Yourself A New Look
When men and women get comfortable in their relationships, they tend to let themselves go. They no longer try as hard to maintain an attractive appearance. One good way to get your ex back is to remind him or her what they are missing and they can't get it anywhere else.
You can do this by getting in shape physically, try a new cosmetic, get a new hairdo, and buy some nice outfits. Wear clothes that you know your ex loves to see you in. In other words, put a new coat of wax on the old Chevy!
When you begin to work out and wear some different new clothes, your self-confidence will get a boost and you will get the attention you seek from your ex. Getting yourself cleaned up and taking some pride in your appearance tells your ex that what she or he thinks of you is important and that his or her opinions matter enough for you to make a change.
Jog Your Ex's Memory
This is a good way to let your ex know why he or she fell for you in the first place. This is another good way to get your ex back. If you two were always on the go and you did exciting things while you were in the early stages of dating, surprise him or her with a week-end vacation and visit some of your old haunts to bring some happy memories back.
A week-end vacation gives the two of you a change of scenery and before you know it, you will be talking about how fun it was when you two first began dating. You never know, you guys might get back together that week-end.
Surprises Can Be Good
Do something unexpected for your ex that he or she would not expect you to do but he or she would want you to do. For instance, if he or she has been wanting you to engage in an activity like going to a sports game with him or sending her flowers at work, do it unexpectedly.
This will help prove to your ex that you are willing to put his or her wants first and do whatever it takes to win his or her heart back again. This also shows that you are willing to make the effort to change, to make it worth his or her wile to give you another chance. Remember, if this method works, you have to be willing to change permanently; not just to get him or her back and return to your old habits.
Make a Promise
To help seal the deal again, promise your ex that things will be different if he or she takes you back. This will also greatly improve the likelihood that you two will have a future together. You should make an honest effort in making these changes you promised. Doesn't your ex deserve the best you have to offer?
If your efforts are not sincere to get your ex back, you face the consequence of breaking up again and permanently ruining your relationship. Before you implement the above suggestions, make sure you want your ex back for all the right reasons so that your efforts won't be in vain.
How To Get Him Back
The Do's and Don'ts of Getting Back With Your Ex
Before we discuss how to get him back, there are a few concepts you need to understand for you to be sure this is the right move for the both of you. You want the second time around to be a healthy and smooth relationship.
Doing the right things from the very beginning and avoid repeating disastrous mistakes, will help to make sure your relationship will stick this time. Here are a few do's and don’ts you should implement before approaching your ex to get back together.
Following these few guidelines should help you with getting him back.
Do Allow Your Ex Plenty of Time
It is not always wise to immediately get back together right after a break up. It takes time to mentally and emotionally digest why and how you broke up in the first place. So give yourself and your ex some time and space to deal with the break up.
Getting right back together after you two have broken up is not always the best thing to do, especially if it has only been a few days since the break up. The incident is still fresh on both of your minds, and there may be issues that need to be dealt with before thinking about reuniting.
Do Communicate To Each Other
It is good to talk to each other about why you broke up in the first place. While you talk to one another, avoid blaming one another, yelling, screaming, and arguing at each other. This will get you nowhere but it will tear you further apart.
Sit down with a coffee and calmly discuss what issues you were having, why you were having them, and how you two can come to some resolution. When you do this, you will begin to resolve your problems and come to a solution of how to save your relationship.
While you two are talking with one another, do not interrupt. Allow your ex to have his say and then you have yours. Talking things through in a calm non-confrontational way is a very important activity. It will help the two of you sort things out and repair the damage done to your relationship.
Don't Use Manipulation To Get Him Back
When you use mind games or some sort of manipulation to get him back in the nook, more problems will only ensue. This will not help you to sustain a healthy relationship for the future. Allow me to give you an illustration, dating someone else to make him jealous so that he will want you back almost never works.
This will push him to want to date someone else to get back at you. The only two things you two are accomplishing is hurting each other more and the two innocent people you are dating. Leave the manipulation and mind games for the reality TV shows, put your pride and hurt aside, and deal with your issues head on like mature adults.
Don't Allow Yourself To Be Possessive and Pushy
If you are too possessive and pushy with him, this will only drive him further away and sink your chances of winning him back. So be sure you avoid doing this. Let him decide if he wants to get back with you without you poking and prodding him. Also, give him enough time and space to emotionally sort things out. Remember, he is hurting just like you are.
Do Approach Him With Sincerity
Be sure you want to get back with your ex for the right reasons. The two best reasons are because you truly love and care about him. You must consider his feelings about getting back together and not just your own.
If you get back together for the wrong reasons, you will begin to repeat mistakes you made the first time around. And I know you both don't want to get back on that emotional roller coaster ride. This will only further damage your relationship and you might end up hating one another, and I know you don't want that. It is better to part as friends than as enemies.
Before we discuss how to get him back, there are a few concepts you need to understand for you to be sure this is the right move for the both of you. You want the second time around to be a healthy and smooth relationship.
Doing the right things from the very beginning and avoid repeating disastrous mistakes, will help to make sure your relationship will stick this time. Here are a few do's and don’ts you should implement before approaching your ex to get back together.
Following these few guidelines should help you with getting him back.
Do Allow Your Ex Plenty of Time
It is not always wise to immediately get back together right after a break up. It takes time to mentally and emotionally digest why and how you broke up in the first place. So give yourself and your ex some time and space to deal with the break up.
Getting right back together after you two have broken up is not always the best thing to do, especially if it has only been a few days since the break up. The incident is still fresh on both of your minds, and there may be issues that need to be dealt with before thinking about reuniting.
Do Communicate To Each Other
It is good to talk to each other about why you broke up in the first place. While you talk to one another, avoid blaming one another, yelling, screaming, and arguing at each other. This will get you nowhere but it will tear you further apart.
Sit down with a coffee and calmly discuss what issues you were having, why you were having them, and how you two can come to some resolution. When you do this, you will begin to resolve your problems and come to a solution of how to save your relationship.
While you two are talking with one another, do not interrupt. Allow your ex to have his say and then you have yours. Talking things through in a calm non-confrontational way is a very important activity. It will help the two of you sort things out and repair the damage done to your relationship.
Don't Use Manipulation To Get Him Back
When you use mind games or some sort of manipulation to get him back in the nook, more problems will only ensue. This will not help you to sustain a healthy relationship for the future. Allow me to give you an illustration, dating someone else to make him jealous so that he will want you back almost never works.
This will push him to want to date someone else to get back at you. The only two things you two are accomplishing is hurting each other more and the two innocent people you are dating. Leave the manipulation and mind games for the reality TV shows, put your pride and hurt aside, and deal with your issues head on like mature adults.
Don't Allow Yourself To Be Possessive and Pushy
If you are too possessive and pushy with him, this will only drive him further away and sink your chances of winning him back. So be sure you avoid doing this. Let him decide if he wants to get back with you without you poking and prodding him. Also, give him enough time and space to emotionally sort things out. Remember, he is hurting just like you are.
Do Approach Him With Sincerity
Be sure you want to get back with your ex for the right reasons. The two best reasons are because you truly love and care about him. You must consider his feelings about getting back together and not just your own.
If you get back together for the wrong reasons, you will begin to repeat mistakes you made the first time around. And I know you both don't want to get back on that emotional roller coaster ride. This will only further damage your relationship and you might end up hating one another, and I know you don't want that. It is better to part as friends than as enemies.
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